Am I Really With “The One?” Tips From A Couples Therapist In Long Beach On Finding Your Soulmate

Ask the average person what their ideal partner would look like, and you will usually get a pretty specific answer. We all have the perfect partner created in our minds, but the question that needs to be asked is whether or not that person even exists. It’s also worth thinking about whether or not you would fit their perfect mold if they did indeed come into your life. When you meet the person you are meant to be with, your idea of the perfect partner begins to alter, as you start to see that certain traits and looks are much more agreeable than you had thought. The million dollar question at this point is usually “is this person the one?”
Unfortunately, there is no perfect test that can be performed to answer that question quickly, and it really does all come down to spending as much time as possible with your partner. During that time, you will find things about them that you adore, while other things they do will be sure to get on your last nerve. The point here is that everyone comes with flaws of some kind or another, and you will need to learn to embrace those if you are to have a happy, fruitful relationship.
One thing that can hold back the process of moving the relationship to the next level is if one of you is holding back or not really being your true self. Perhaps there is something from your past that you are not willing to share, or maybe a fear of commitment is preventing you from giving yourself fully to your partner. These are issues that can end a relationship prematurely, especially if the other person is putting themselves out there completely. This is when it might be a good time to seek out in couple’s therapy.
The common misconception is that couples therapy is solely for people who are on the brink of breaking up a relationship. This is not the case, though, as it can also be used to help take your relationship to the next level. If you feel that you may well be with “the one,” but are still harboring some level of doubt, talking out your feelings with a professional couples therapist can help you understand why that is happening. It can also help your partner, who has committed fully, understand that it is not necessarily something that they are doing which is preventing you from taking the next step.
Even if you are sure that the person you are with is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, you may still require assurances that you are making the right decision. Deciding to commit to a single person for the rest of your days can be a daunting task, even if it is something you have always dreamed of. A couple’s therapist can get to the heart of your fears and doubts, helping you become someone who is ready to fully commit in the process. If any of these issues resonates with you, call me to set up an appointment.

If you are looking for individual therapy or couples therapy in Long Beach, please give me a call to ask me a question or to set up an appointment.