How A Lack of Communication Can Kill A Marriage.

Also, Info On Couples Therapy In Long Beach

There are some cases where a once happy marriage hits the rocks because of a single event, with infidelity usually high on the list. For the most part, a good relationship is broken down over time, with a number of smaller issues creating one huge problem. There are a number of different problems that fall under that umbrella, but a lack of communication is one that becomes a major issue in many marriages, especially when the couple has been together for a long time. People start to take each other for granted, simply assuming that their partner will know exactly what they are thinking at all times. Psychic ability is not something the average person possesses, which makes good communication a must.
There are a number of different mistakes that couples make when it comes to communication, all of which go beyond simply not talking out the problems in the relationship. One of the worst mistakes that can be made is turning every attempt at communication into a shouting match. This is what generally happens when problems are not addressed when they first arise. Both sides start to believe that the other doesn’t care, and when it finally does come time to talk, passions are at a level where normal conversation seems impossible.
If you are a couple who is open with communication, but still finds that arguments always ensue, then perhaps you are being too competitive. There is a natural high that comes from winning at anything, and that includes regular discussions. If you find yourself constantly trying to build up a large collection of arguments and bullet points in your mind to use against your spouse when it comes time to talk, that is a problem that needs to be addressed, and quickly.
Another communication problem that frequently rears its head in a relationship is thinking more about your own needs than the needs of your partner. How can you effectively get your point across and work as a team if your focus is on what is best for you? A marriage is a partnership that works best when you and your spouse act as a team. The moment one person goes rogue and starts to do things on their own is when communication issues start to develop. It’s fine to have some time for yourself, but when that time starts to encroach on the good of the relationship, you need to scale back.
If you have read the above communication problems and find that you can relate to even just one of them, it may be time for couple’s therapy. Without the help of a professional intermediary, your attempts at communicating with your partner might simply crumble. Communication problems can put a strain on a marriage that might well set you on the path to divorce. A couple’s therapist can help you communicate with your partner in a way that gets the team concept of marriage back on track in a relatively short period of time. Once that has been established, you’ll usually find that many of the other smaller problems simply vanish.

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