Is My Child A Bully?
Bullying is one of the most influential terms that affect a child’s way of living. To use bullying against other people is one thing that triggers undesirable situations that affects the person who is being bullied and the person who bullies other people as well. Bullying is not a rare case especially for children as different factors are considered to be the reason why they do such actions. You might be thinking why a child tends to bully another child of the same age, younger or quite older than them. Sometimes, the cause of bullying may be part of an individual’s childhood experience.
The common causes of bullying are the following:
- Lack of Attention – there are children who used to bully other children because they lack attention. Children usually have vulnerabilities and always looking for the attention of their parents that leads them to bully. In bullying, they get other people’s attention, especially the attention of their parents.
- Aggressive Personality – there are children that are not really lacking attention from their parents. The bully does it because of their aggressive personality. This aggressive personality of the children may be the effect of environment or community where he or she belongs and the upbringing of their parents.
- Likeness of having power over peers – bullying can be the result of likeness of the child to rule over his or her peers. In this way, they get attention and power over them which fills in their desires for attention. Somehow, the feelings of jealousy, boredom and likeness for troublesome situation are what motivate them.
- Lack of Supervision –giving guidance and support are important aspects in raising a child. Those parents who forget about these things can possibly be the reason why behavior problems in children lead to bullying. Lack of supervision is one main reason why bullying of a child happens. A parent sees the bullying behavior but either doesn’t know how to handle it or believes they don’t have time to handle it (that other things are more important, such as the work call they are on or the company they have over).
The causes of bullying will always have unhealthy effects both on the person who bullies and to the person being bullied. Here are some of the effects of bullying:
Effects to the person who is being bullied:
- Lowering of self- confidence and/or self-esteem
- Anxiety
- Depression
- Suicidal thoughts and attempts
- Sleeping disorders
- School problems
- Crying for no reason that is understood by parent
- Poor appetite and digestive problems
Effects to the person who is bullying:
- Getting violent
- Getting into trouble a lot
- Develops cruel thoughts
- Losing people’s trust
- Overpowering others
The different forms of bullying can be avoided. This all start at home so the guidance of parents is always the strongest foundation of making a child’s action to be morally upright. If you want your child to become one of the children who is not bullying and not being bullied by other children, you can make use the power of advising and being a good example of them. So take your responsibility seriously as a parent to keep your children away from bullying at home. In the case you don’t know what to do with your child who is bullying other kids, get parenting help or call me to help you find ways to reduce or eliminate their bullying behavior immediately. One of the reasons that concierge therapy can be so helpful is that I can travel to your home or child’s school and actually observe the environment from a therapeutic perspective and give better guidance of how to help. We travel to Beverly Hills, Brentwood, Malibu, Santa Monica and anywhere else in Los Angeles County or Orange County.