How can I help a friend who is depressed?

Depression is a very tough thing for someone to deal with.  As much as a depressed person may not respond back to you or may isolate, it is important that you check in with them and let them know that you haven’t forgotten about them.  You can start off with a longer text/email/note/call and then check in every couple of days with a shorter response.

Here are some ideas of what you can tell a friend in that first conversation:

I just wanted to reach out and let you know that I am here for you. I know that you have been going through a really tough time lately and it breaks my heart to see you struggling. Please know that you are not alone and that I am here to support you in any way that I can.

It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, sad, and depressed. It’s a normal and natural part of life to have ups and downs, and it’s important to give yourself the time and space to process your emotions.

Remember that you are loved and valued, and that you have so much to offer the world. You are strong, resilient, and capable of overcoming this difficult time. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me anytime, day or night, if you need to talk or just need a shoulder to lean on. I am here for you, always.  I hope it is okay that I text you that I am thinking about you.  You don’t always have to text back if you aren’t feeling up for it, but know I am thinking about you and care about you.

With love and support,

Your friend, (write your name here)

Here are some ideas of what you can tell a friend AFTER that first message:

Hi, I just want you to know I am thinking about you.

Hi, I’m out taking a walk and thinking about you.  The sky is beautiful today. If you want to take a walk with me, let me know.

Hi, I just wanted to say hi.  That’s all.  I hope your day is a good one!