9 Tips to deal with Empty Nest Syndrome
Empty nesters often deal with Loneliness, identity crisis, relationship Changes, increased free time and worry/anxiety about their kid’s well-being and safety. Worry and Anxiety: Concern for their children’s well-being and safety in a new environment can cause ongoing worry and anxiety for parents.
Here are 9 tips to deal with Empty Nest Syndrome:
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Acknowledge Your Feelings
It’s important to recognize and allow room for your emotions. Feeling sad, lonely, and/or lost is normal when your kids leave home. Give yourself permission to grieve this transition.
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Rediscover Your Identity
Parenting is a full time job and often becomes a central part of who we are. Take time to rediscover hobbies and interests that you had before having kids. If you have no idea where to start, try looking at a parks and rec catalogue for classes in yore area that you might be interested in.
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Strengthen Your Relationship
Many empty nesters don’t remember who their spouse is as a PERSON. They know who they are as a parent or tag team partner, but not as a spouse or person. Plan date nights, explore new interests together, and reconnect as a couple.
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Stay Connected
Just because your kids have moved out, it doesn’t mean they’re out of your life. Regularly scheduled phone calls, video chats, and visits can help maintain a strong connection. If your kids don’t respond to you or don’t want those things just yet, text them several times per week with something they don’t have to respond to (e.g. “I hope you have a great day”). This way, they don’t feel pressure to fill a void in your life and you are less resentful that they are too busy for you.
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Seek Support
Talking to friends who are also empty nesters can help (even if it’s been a while for them since their kids moved out). Sharing your experiences with others who are going through the same transition can oftentimes provide comfort and insight.
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Set New Goals
Now is a great time to think about what personal or professional goals you would want to achieve. Whether it’s taking an art class, traveling, or starting a new career path, setting goals can help provide you with a sense of purpose and direction.
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Focus on Self-Care
Take care of your physical and mental health. Remember to exercise regularly, eat well, and ensure you get enough rest. These are things you might not have had time for in the past and so creating new, healthier, habits can be helpful.
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Volunteer or Get Involved in the Community
Volunteering can provide a sense of purpose and connection. Find local organizations or causes that you have a passion for and get involved.
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Consider Professional Help
If you find yourself anxious or depressed with this transition, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. A therapist can provide strategies and support to help you navigate your feelings and find new meaning in your life. If you live in Long Beach and are looking for professional therapy near you, please give us a call/text at Long Beach Therapy at: 562-310-9741. We have in person therapy near you and online therapy for people who live in California.
Empty nest syndrome is a natural part of any parenting journey. While it can be a difficult adjustment at first, it also presents an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Remember that it’s okay to ask for help and it’s okay to take things one step at a time. You’ve dedicated so much of your life to raising your kids; now it’s time to take care of yourself.