Living On Purpose
Living purposefully
In recent years, I have noticed that many of the sessions with my clients end up being about living on purpose. These are generally people who are in unhappy relationships, but who stay in them because they are afraid to be alone. The thought of getting out and starting to date again is something that fills them with fear. They are unable to state why they are in love, no matter how many times they say the words. The belief is that comfort with another person translates to love. They think that a relationship in a constant state of fighting and making up is one filled with passion, and therefore, love. It becomes my job to help them stay, if the desire to do so is there, or to leave, if they really want out. Making no decision at all is still tantamount to making a choice that adds up to a decision. People who are caught in this have to think about what they would tell a close friend or family member if those people asked for advice when caught in the same situation.
It’s somewhat natural to stay in a relationship when you feel as though the hard work to save it has not been put in. If that is the category you fall under, I suggest you take part in my 30 day relationship challenge featured on my website. This can be completed on your own or as a couple, with the sessions available there all tailored to help improve your relationship. You simply cannot lose, as will either see an improvement in your relationship, or you will feel satisfied that you have done all you can, and that there is no way back to a true, loving coupling. While the latter of those two options may seem a little scary, you will know that you tried your best, plus you will have learned important lessons that can be carried over into your next relationship. You may even develop a level of self-awareness that makes you see how much you bring to a compatible partner. The sessions will also help you see that your partner is not the villain. He or she may want things to work as much as you do, but may not possess the skills to make it happen. When you work through the sessions as a couple, you can both evaluate where the relationship is at, and whether or not it is one that can be saved. At the end of the day, you can both be happy, no matter the direction the relationship takes.