Recognizing And Seeing The Signs Of Emotional Cheating

Most people believe that if someone cheating in a relationship it’s a physical attraction that will probably end up being short lived.  Most people think there is no real emotion involved just lust and one-night stands.  There are many cases that would prove this theory true, but there are other cases that are loaded with a great deal of emotion.  One of the most critical aspects in a solid relationship is communication.  Just because communication has died on the side of the road, the need for communication has not.  If your partner believes they can no longer share their thoughts and feelings with you, they will seek someone out who will listen.  When a spouse or partner take their emotions to someone else and not you, you are now looking at emotional cheating.  This relationship is not necessarily a physical one, it could be they have found someone else they would rather tell their troubles to.  This can be very painful once you realize your partner no longer wants to confide in you but someone else.  The level of trust has just been yanked out of your relationship and this will hurt just as much as if they were having a physical relationship with someone else. (This is just as true and relevant for men emotionally cheating as well as women, by the way).

So, how can you find out if your partner is having an emotional relationship with someone else?  A big hint might be the safeguarding their cell phone, changing the passwords or you simply have no idea where the phone has gone to.  Your spouse makes phone calls from another room or will stop talking when you enter the room.  Once communication is taken out of your relationship, any physical relationship you once had will often quickly follow.

If your partner has given their emotional needs to someone else, it can feel very much like they are saying you do not matter anymore.  This can be followed by them blaming you for things, which is usually a sign of their guilt.  Even if you have done nothing wrong, they will find a way to blame you for random things in order to justify their actions.  On the contrary, in some cases, your partner might be way too happy most of the time and just not acting like themselves.

These are possible signs that you might pick up on or maybe none of these characteristics apply.  Most signs are going to be a gut instinct that tells you something is going on but you just can’t put your finger on it.  If you get this sense, you don’t necessarily need to confront them just yet, simply try to plan more things with them, try to increase the intimacy, ask them about their day and try to be more available.  If, at some point, the two of you talk this out and truly wish to turn things back around, it’s wise to get with a couple therapist to help you rebuild your path back to a good relationship.