Should I leave a relationship that has made me a worse person?

Although this might seem like an obvious answer, it is not so easy to answer when you are actually IN the relationship.

As a therapist, I often see individuals struggling in relationships that have changed for the worse. It may have started great and stayed great for a long time, but people change and frustrations and resentments can build in relationships that cause people problems in relaiotnships.   So when you are thinking about leaving, sometimes you feel responsible for causing a partner to change or you may feel that you don’t want to abandon your partner when they are struggling.

It’s important to remember that relationships don’t have to be permanent and they can go through ebbs and flows. That being said, if your relationship is causing significant harm to your mental and/or emotional well-being, it is most likely time to get into therapy to figure out such a big decision.

While it can be difficult to let go of a relationship, it’s important to evaluate if the relationship is harming you and if it could potentially be harming your partner.   A therapist is trained to be objective and get to know you and your lifestyle preferences to help you make the decision.  A friend often has biases and possibly personal experience with your partner which can unknowingly affect their support of your decision and advice they may give.

If you’re constantly drained or unhappy in your relationship, or you believe that you are becoming a worse person being in your relationship, consider giving us a call.

Since we believe the best therapist is the one who you feel safest with, we have options of different therapists so that you can get the one you feel the most safe/comfortable with to start your journey of healing.  To take the first step, call Long Beach Therapy to schedule an appointment at 562-310-9741.