How To Improve Communication In Your Relationship

One of the most common complaints that I hear from the couples I counsel is in regards to the lack of communication in their relationship. The majority of couples build their relationship on a rocky foundation riddled with communicative cracks. In order for a relationship to stay healthy, good communications skills have to be developed. When communication breaks down in a relationship, intimacy and happiness can start to become lost. This causes some to look outside of the relationship in hopes of finding what they cannot get at home.

In couple’s therapy, I start to solve this problem by working on the foundation. I instill communications skills in the couples, allowing them to solve problems big and small as a team, which is what a relationship is all about. These skills already exist inside many people, they just have to be found.

A good way to become a better communicator is to repeat back to yourself what the other person said. When tempers flare, all we often hear are the first few words, with the rest of their words muffled as we plan our defense. If it becomes clear to your partner that you are listening to them, situations tend to diffuse a little more quickly. When that happens, it becomes so much easier to communicate calmly and rationally.

If you live in California and are looking for a couple’s therapist, please give us a call at Long Beach Therapy: 562-310-9741.