It’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to be liked by everyone. But the reality is that not everyone will like you, and that’s okay. If you spend your time changing who you are to fit what others want, you’ll lose sight of your true self. The key is to be your genuine,
When someone hurts you, it’s natural to want them to fix it. You might find yourself waiting for an apology, an explanation, or even some grand gesture that makes things right again. But often, the painful truth is that the person who caused your pain is rarely the one who heals you. Healing, as unfair
Coping with Chronic illness, how to live and not just exist. I have personal and professional experience with chronic illness and chronic pain and understand how difficult it is to try to live life and not just exist with chronic pain. In this post, I will be using chronic illness and chronic pain interchangeably because
How to deal with sadness after divorce and dealing with split custody? When you are a parent, you are usually with your kids or waiting for them while they are doing something for much of their childhood. If they have a 45 minute art class that is 15 minutes away, usually you sit and wait while
How to improve self-esteem? Here are 5 tips to help your self-esteem: Many issues in life are created because of low self-esteem. As a therapist, I am very privileged to hear people’s self-esteem issues because it reminds me that EVERYONE struggles with self-esteem at some point (or all points) in their lives. It helps me
How to stop being depressed? Depression is more than just feeling sad or being blue. It’s a common mental health struggle that can become dangerous and even life-threatening if left untreated. One of the most difficult things about being depressed, aside from the depression itself, is how people view you when you are depressed. People
What is mindfulness? I am a local mental health therapist in Long Beach. CLICK HERE to hear what mindfulness is and why mindfulness can help you. Research has shown that mindfulness helps anxiety, helps depression, and helps many other issues that people struggle with. Mindfulness is also a great self-care technique and coping skill for
How can I help a friend who is depressed? Depression is a very tough thing for someone to deal with. As much as a depressed person may not respond back to you or may isolate, it is important that you check in with them and let them know that you haven’t forgotten about them. You
Stephen “tWitch” Boss’ suicide this week has left a lot of people with heavy hearts. Questions like “how could TWitch commit suicide when he had it all”, “why would someone like TWitch take his own life”, “how can someone who seems so happy choose to end their life”, and “why would TWitch kill himself when
I have been a therapist in Long Beach for over 25 years. One of the things that I observe in people who are working on self-esteem who transition from low self-esteem to a healthier self-esteem is that they accept that they are important in this world. That is often the moment where I see that
